Well, there’s a lot of things that I could comment on about this, but from my own (male) perspective, you shouldn’t be afraid to talk to him about it – but in doing so, don’t be defensive or on the attack.
Hopefully you have seen the movie “The Preachers Wife.” Well in this movie there is a scene where the two women are discussing looking at other men while being married. You may remember this:
Julia Biggs (Whitney Houston) says: “It’s okay if I look in the window, just as long as I don’t buy.”
Marguerite Coleman (Jennifer Lewis) says: “Yeah? Well, don’t go shopping with money in your pocket! And you better not be putting anything in the layaway plan, either!”
This implies that it is ok to look but if you look too much you might just be tempted to go to the next step. It is not always the case but it is definitely a reality in the world we live in today.
So here is what I would suggest that you do:
First – Ask him in a neutral tone if he realizes what he’s doing and just let him know it’s embarrassing you and makes you feel unappreciated.
Next – Understand that this requires some training; it is not going to happen overnight because men are attracted to “pretty flowers” like bees. Women of course are too but they are usually less obvious about it – “usually.”
Finally – He may not stop overnight, but kindly spoken words and reminders that communicate you love him and would like him to think about how his frequent staring hurts your feelings will go a long way.
Whatever you do please do not keep it to yourself because if you do over a period of time you will launch on him like a crazed fool. Just talk and see if he’s got what it takes to turn away. If he doesn’t stop doing it, just slap HIM UP SIDE THE HEAD a couple of times and everything will be ok.