Sometimes The Why It Happened Makes You Wonder What Really Happened


Relationships are strange.  Sometimes our expectations may match but our ability to communicate properly costs us opportunities that we really wanted badly. From time to time you engage in a conversation that you were too nervous or too immature to have a while back and you realize that communication is detrimental to the success of any and every great bond that humans can encounter.

We take for granted the emotions of others and sometimes people will do vindictive things because they are jaded or scarred due to your actions. Family members, friends, and lovers all fall victim to lack of communication and honestly they have no clue that is why they aren’t anywhere close to where they need to be. Communication is vital to communicate with one another, even if you have had a fight. The lack of communication may lead to serious problems and misunderstandings.

Sometimes we don’t realize that our attitude towards people will cause things to go bitter as well. Do not show indifference towards emotional behavior. An indifferent attitude can really break a relationship that ultimately ends in both people hating each other. For example, if you have had a horrible fight and your friend is all in tears, make the effort to pacify them, or show in some subtle way that you too are feeling terrible about the brawl. Do not be indifferent, even though it is the easiest way to get out of a sticky situation.

For all the men, do not let the male ego stop you from sharing and taking on some responsibilities. You would be surprised how much sharing simple things makes your friends feel wanted and your relationships run smoother. A woman once noted that she could tell if a man loved her if he was willing to give her his last bite of food. Maybe that’s something we should all remember. If you have a friend and you aren’t sure where you guys are whether it is a relationship or not ask for that last chicken wing or last hand full of popcorn at the theater.

There are going to be moments during friendships where anger is going to occur. I usually avoid anger situations because I am non-controversial but I also avoid them because I sometimes cross the line when I get angry. I once had a roommate that messed up something of mine in college and I went nuts on his stuff and literally had to stop myself or he would have had nothing else to wear.

It is important that we have control over our feelings; don’t jump the wall whenever you feel like it. Let the moment of anger pass. Never lash out in public places, as such incidents will always bear an ugly mark on your relationship all throughout your life. Learn to control your anger and aggression.

Don’t lie unnecessarily, that will take away the trust from a relationship. And such a relationship usually meets a sorry end.

Finally, do not let all the problems get to your head. Life is a process of dealing with trials and tribulations. You have to gain control over your life. Approach any problem as a team and see the end of it. In fact, see them as an opportunity to bind together. Use successful problem solving skills to drive away challenging situations. That will keep your love life really alive and resonating with love, care, trust and mutual respect.

A sexy young coEd taught me that perception and knowing is much better than uncertainty and A LIST full of meaningful behavior. Take pride in what you can do and do it well. Sometimes lessons are learned the hard way. They may cost you things in your life and you will honestly have no idea why they are gone.


3 thoughts on “Sometimes The Why It Happened Makes You Wonder What Really Happened

  1. yourothermotherhere December 29, 2012 / 7:19 pm

    It is sad, but we are taught to mask our emotions and not show the “real” us for fear of rejection, yet, if we did show ourselves as we are, we would attract people who like us for who we really are and a lot of pain would be eliminated. That requires honesty with yourself first and foremost. Easier said than done, but not impossible.

      • yourothermotherhere December 29, 2012 / 10:50 pm

        Thank you.

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