Life has an amazing way of humbling us. As people on this planet, we often think we control our destiny or in some ways we believe that we can force things into existence. What we should be doing is trying to incorporate things into a plan or vision that we have for ourselves and stop forcing things that we want to see into existence.
Everything from jobs, friendships, and relationships are factored into this equation. Life lessons should be learned from. Models for success are everywhere but the model that you need to work from may not be in play right away. People who are good at what they do are good at it because they know when to take calculated risks. They play chess with their adversaries and make the moves that send them into the position that they want them to play.
People who try to force things may have success, but they often leave themselves exposed because they spend too much time on things that they want versus whats good for the team. When someone asks you who’s the greatest quarterback of all time, you can tell a lot about a person by the way they answer the question. If they say Brett Favre, then you know they are a person who likes to take chances and risks. If they say Tom Brady, then you know they are calculated and they are willing to concede being the focal point for the nature of success.
Leading with ultimatums never works. You should have learned form your childhood that when someone demands something of you, then you usually go in the opposite direction out of reflex. It’s innate. Why not guide a person to what you want? Show them that they can benefit from certain things in their lives if they cooperate with you on the journey or vision that you have.
Team building is complex in nature. The most successful teams love playing together. Whether in Sports (Golden State Warriors, New England Patriots) or life (Barack and Michelle, Will and Jada) the common denominator is appreciation for what each piece brings to the table. If I bob and you weave then the chances of us being successful are greater because of the response to stimuli. But if I bob and you bob harder, all you’ve done is created an obstacle that creates discourse.