You Not Your Representative


Too many times when starting to date, you meet a persons representative in the early stages. Mannerisms and how people act can tell you everything you need to know about a person and the art of ‘being yourself on a date.’  They have pasted on fake smiles, giggle and laugh a little too loud, play with their hair a little too much and do everything possible to hide their flaws – whether it be a blackhead, or the inability to hold down a job.

Obviously, if you are dating people then you are looking for someone to make a connection.  Yet, if you are unable to be yourself or try to put on airs in order to avoid the other person getting to really know you…you might as well just stay home.

Sadly, the world of internet dating and hook-ups has made it even easier for folks to live under false pretenses and make other people think that they are something they aren’t. Continue reading

Are You Willing To Go The Extra Mile


Mailbox Question: “I’m looking for something different this upcoming summer. I want to keep my man’s interest on me. I don’t like to do the hoochie thing and I want to keep it classy but sexy. What do you suggest I do to hold his attention when this summer rolls around?”

This is a question that I never in my life thought I would be able to answer. But “hold up” *In My Nate Dogg Voice* I’ve got you covered.

First of all let me begin with the fact that I admire a woman that is willing to go the extra mile for her man. It shows that you are dedicated to the cause and you are willing to keep it chic. That is commendable.

Secondly I am enamored by the resolve that you are showing to step your game up. Every man reading this will back me in saying that we love a woman that knows how to keep it sexy. Because you are seeking advice lets me know that you are serious so I am going to do my best Tom Brady impersonation and be real clutch for you right about now.

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Go For It


Yesterday I was hit with the question is it okay to just want a physical relationship with someone. In reality, there is nothing wrong with wanting a physical relationship from someone you like. You just have to better understand that she has to be on the same page as you and you need to know who you are.

Since I am a former college football coach, I’ll create a scenario that you can relate too in case we have a few younger readers stumble upon the site. Female readers read closely as well because I am sure you will understand what I am saying just as good as the male readers.

Imagine you are a Head Coach for a minute. There are several situations come your way all the time. How you handle them says a lot about you and how you handle adversity. Continue reading

The Space Debate


I was recently posed with this question from someone that I work out with and he wanted me to elaborate and I thought it would be a great blog post.

“I love my lady with all my heart but she feels the need to be up under me 24/7. It’s cool some days but not every day. I am glad she wants to spend time with me but not all day every day. I don’t want her to get tired of me but if this keeps up I am definitely going to get tired of her. How can I explain this situation to her without making it look like I am being selfish or inconsiderate?”

There is nothing like spending quality time with your loved ones. But, compelling them to stick to you 24 hours a day is no way to stay in a relationship. Holding on to your relationship selfishly and not letting your partner be independent could cause your relationship to turn sour. Many people fail to realize that individuals differ in their approach to life. We should learn to accept each other’s differences and give our partners their desired space in the relationship. Giving space is important to maintain a healthy relationship. Continue reading

New Chapter New Song


For most of us, one of the most painful things we can experience is a relationship break up. It’s like losing an important part of yourself.

But what if I told you that a relationship break up can turn out to be a very good thing for you? What if I said that it’s a chance to find yourself again and examine your priorities and your place in life?

You’re standing at a crossroads – all you need to do is make the right decision about how to proceed.

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Test It Before You Buy It or Nah?


Many people believe that living together is a good test run before committing to marriage, helping to lessen the inevitable marital problems. But moving in together means a commitment that goes deeper than many people realize – buying or renting a place together, getting a dog and sharing in an exclusive relationship. And couples who aren’t sure they want to marry will find it much more difficult to end the relationship.

However I think I read somewhere a few years ago that the overall divorce rate is higher among couples who have lived together before marrying. However this weekend in preparing for your question I uncovered a new study that shows that the real risk is for those who lived with someone other than their eventual spouse. Continue reading

Why Alabama Is Different When It Comes To College Football

When you look at The University of Alabama football, it almost always looks like they stay ahead of the curve.  Taking old coaches and scrubbing them clean while rehabilitating them for future head coaching positions is the cornerstone for Nick Saban.

Nick Saban is always 5 steps in front of everyone else. Saban is playing chess while everyone else is playing checkers. While the NCAA and most universities play amateur sports, Saban understands that this is big business. Alabama wins because they have the best business model. They invest, they work to their own standard, they’re audacious, hold themselves accountable AND they don’t care what you think about them. Four National Championships in seven years and the favorite to win the 5th in eight years in January. Continue reading