Taking A Step Forward


Most of my life focusing on the present moment has been something I struggle with. As hard as I try, and as much as I know it’s so much better to live in the now, I struggle with finding the present moment among my constantly racing thoughts. Whether it’s the already-happened past creeping back into my mind or the who-knows-if-it-will-happen future taking hold of my thoughts, more often than not I find myself living somewhere other than the present moment. And, of course, that’s not what I want to be doing.

Apparently looking backward has always been a fault of mine. In a lot of ways it was the primary reason I started this site. I wanted to, and still want to, stop focusing on the past. I write about things that happened to me a lot because it allows me to reflect on things that I need to work on about myself. Continue reading


Patriots And Falcons: Old vs. New


When you think about excellence, nothing stands out like the New England Patriots. In their 16 seasons under Bill Belichick, the Patriots have won the Super Bowl four times, been runner-up twice and missed the postseason just three times. Super Bowl 51 should be a crowning achievement for the Patriots as Belichick participates in his seventh and Tom Brady tries to win his fifth making him the winningest Super Bowl quarterback of all time.

The Patriots face an Atlanta team that is participating in its second ever Super Bowl but they have yet to pop the champagne bottle as a victor. Atlanta represents the new guard when it comes to football excellence. Continue reading

Unnecessary Stress And The Human Psyche

Nobody thought of bringing a headache pill to the party?

What I’ve found over the years is that some people look for reasons to be unhappy. When things are going great, they find a way to rock the boat. It’s not that they intend too, but they figure out a way to upset what the universe has provided them with.

Pro Football Talk ran a story today about how Antonio Brown was upset when the Steelers scored their first touchdown because he wanted the ball and was pouting on the sidelines. We’re talking about the actions of the best wide receiver in football who is playing in a playoff game for a chance to go to the Super Bowl and you’re over there pouting!!! Continue reading

Forcing Things Never Works Long Term


Life has an amazing way of humbling us. As people on this planet, we often think we control our destiny or in some ways we believe that we can force things into existence. What we should be doing is trying to incorporate things into a plan or vision that we have for ourselves and stop forcing things that we want to see into existence.

Everything from jobs, friendships, and relationships are factored into this equation. Life lessons should be learned from. Models for success are everywhere but the model that you need to work from may not be in play right away. People who are good at what they do are good at it because they know when to take calculated risks. They play chess with their adversaries and make the moves that send them into the position that they want them to play.  Continue reading

Effects of the Repeal of The Affordable Care Act

Just FYI regarding who all will ACTUALLY be affected by the repeal of The ACA…

This will affect many.
For those celebrating the forthcoming repeal of the Affordable Care Act (Obamacare)

Just a reminder that even if you are safely ensconced behind employer-provided insurance, the protections set forth in the ACA apply to you, too–and if those protections are repealed along with the rest (or any part) of the program, you will also be affected. Continue reading

Respect Goes A Long Way


Today in my inbox I noticed there were lots of questions about women. Some about what to do when …. happens or what not to do in this situation. So today I decided to write about what women actually want, or I should say what I think women want from their man or significant other.

Contrary to popular belief, women are pretty simple when it comes to their wants and needs. The whole men are from Mars, women are from Venus thing is more fiction than fact. It is no secret that women operate on different wavelengths than men. Most men think women want expensive diamond rings and a man with a lot of money, but I can tell you from experience that may sometimes be the case (if she’s in it for the wrong reasons) Continue reading

Saying Goodbye To History


Today we say goodbye to a historical moment. We’ve witnessed a feat that I never imagined possible in my lifetime and I’m a mere 43 years of age. When I first began teaching, I would often say that the likely nature of there ever being a black president in my lifetime was pretty slim. I used to say this because growing up in the south, there was no way southerners would be willing to endorse a black leader.  Continue reading